You Don’t Have to Carry It Alone

If you're navigating anxiety, emotional overwhelm, or the effects of trauma, you're not broken - and you're not alone. I offer a grounded space where healing begins with being truly heard.

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Leilani Bömer

Leilani Bömer

About

I’m a therapist with a focus on anxiety, complex trauma, and the long-term effects of emotional or narcissistic abuse. My work is grounded in deep listening and attuned presence, creating a space where you don’t have to explain your pain, justify your feelings, or fit a label to be understood.

Clients I work with often carry patterns shaped by childhood neglect, unstable relationships, or feeling unseen for too long. You may feel overwhelmed, disconnected, or unsure how to reclaim your voice after years of surviving rather than living. Together, we explore the emotional patterns shaping your life—not to fix you, but to help you reconnect with the self beneath the defenses.

My approach integrates schema therapy, psychodynamic thinking, and attachment-focused work. Sessions are paced with care, structured without pressure, and shaped by your capacity, not by expectations or performance.

I provide inclusive, affirming support for LGBTQIA+ clients, as well as those navigating issues of identity, marginalization, and complex relationships. I also bring a cross-cultural lens to therapy, informed by my experience living and working in the US, Japan, Germany, and the Czech Republic.

If you’re looking for therapy that feels warm, steady, and thoughtful, I’d be honored to work with you.

Who I Work With

I support adults and young adults who are navigating the emotional aftermath of abuse, neglect, or disconnection. Many of the clients I work with identify with:

  • • Anxiety or hypervigilance that feels constant
  • • Difficulty trusting others or setting boundaries
  • • Complex PTSD, emotional flashbacks, or self-doubt
  • • Aftereffects of narcissistic or manipulative partners or caregivers
  • • Feeling lost, disconnected, or emotionally shut down
  • • Struggling to unlearn shame or people-pleasing patterns

My Services

I offer relational, trauma-informed therapy to help you explore the roots of your patterns and reconnect with your sense of self. Sessions are available in English and German.

  • • Individual therapy for anxiety, self-doubt, or relational confusion
  • • Schema-based therapy for childhood emotional trauma and neglect
  • • Support for survivors of narcissistic or emotionally abusive relationships
  • • LGBTQIA+ affirming therapy for identity, orientation, or belonging

Session Overview

  • Session type: Individual and couples
  • Clients: Adults and young adults
  • Session length: 50 minutes
  • Frequency: Weekly or biweekly, depending on fit
  • Approach: Schema-informed therapy, psychodynamic work, and attachment theory

What Clients Say About Working With Me

“Leilani didn’t just hear my words, she understood the pain underneath. I felt safe in a way I didn’t think was possible.”
“I never had to justify my feelings. For the first time, I wasn’t too much.”
“Working with Leilani helped me find words for things I’d always carried in silence. And start letting them go.”

Still exploring? Learn more about our services, view answers in the FAQ, or check our session fees.

You can also read about Raffaele or go back to the About Us page.

Ready to Begin?

If you're looking for therapy that’s warm, focused, and attuned to your story, I invite you to get in touch.

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